Month: July 2019

Winter Update

Over halfway through the year! I am plodding along. Plid plod. I get two mornings a week to write morning pages and get into (what I call) “sharing mode.” Most of the time, though, I feel like keeping to myself and my thoughts aren’t as clear, because I’m not journalling. Fog-head.

Everything is OK. Winter holidays are coming up and I’m looking forward to that, even though it will be hard work with two active and strong-willed children!

This year, the kids stopped having afternoon naps, and so those beautiful afternoon breaks have gone. I have two half-days off (Monday and Saturday) and nights after 9PM. You’d think that would equal as much Me-Time as having an office job (the equivalent of nights and the weekend!) but to be honest, having an office job was:
a) easier because it was mostly Me-Time (there weren’t any kids asking me non-stop questions and giving me non-stop requests);
b) harder because it was more boring and I didn’t get to build a fort or visit an amazing adventure playground or toast marshmallows on a fire pit at my sister’s house or watch “Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them” on a weekday.

It’s always changing! Next year my eldest (4) goes to primary school. I hope it’s okay. A few kids have been mean to him this year. I thought teasing/bullying would happen in primary school, but I didn’t expect it in preschool. He’s confused by it all. “But I’m really nice,” he says, wanting me to explain the whole phenomenon. I don’t know what to say. The only thing I could think to say was, “If someone said that to me, I think I would go far away from them, and be my own friend, or play with someone else who is nice.”

I remember my mum used to say, “Just ignore them – they have the problem, not you. Maybe they feel insecure, or they want to feel power, or they have problems at home, and they’re taking it out on you.” But “just ignore them” was frustrating advice. I didn’t want to ignore them, I wanted to feel empowered. I wanted them to stop.

I think I’ll ask my kid to tell me when he feels uncomfortable. If it happens again, I think I’ll ask the teachers to talk to the parents of the other children. Nothing’s going to change if the other families don’t have conversations. Maybe I need to research this whole topic properly.

In other news, I’ve started a casual art group – an evening meetup where peeps can come & work on their art/craft projects in a social setting. The first meetup is tonight. I’ve no idea how it will go! We’ll see. I’d also like to get to a Greens meetup and meet some local Greens people. Maybe in spring.