Boy Things and Girl Things

I have a boy child and a girl child. Every few months, I’ll meet someone who finds out (that I have a boy child and a girl child), and sometimes they comment:

“Ohhh, it’s so true, isn’t it?! Boys and girls are just so different!”

or

“Oh, me too! It’s so true what they say, boys are just into boy things and girls are into girl things.”

I don’t answer when people say that, because I find there’s no point. And usually the person has continued on to tell me about all the boy-things that their boy is into, and how their girl is completely different.

Sometimes, however, they comment:

“Did you get a real boy-ey boy and a real girly girl?”

or

“Is it true, what they say? Are they really stereotypically into ‘boy-‘ and ‘girl-things?'”

I had one of those comments last week. I usually reply to those kinds of comments, because it feels like the person is actually listening and curious:

“Well. I could say ‘Yes.’ My boy likes LEGO and train sets and marble runs and engineering things. He likes digging ‘channels’ or ‘moats’ in dirt or sand. He likes being outside for a million hours, my girl doesn’t. My girl likes playing with our toy stroller, toy food and toy kitchen. She loves playing with dress-ups and make-up, whereas my boy’s not into it. It’d be really neat and tidy to stop there. But that would be ignoring so many of their interests. My boy also likes playing with the toy stroller, toy food and toy kitchen. They both like mud, sand, water play and swimming. They both love climbing and riding bikes. They both love painting, art and craft. They both love music and dancing. My boy’s not into TV shows with fighting and baddies like PJ Masks, he’s into tender shows with a loving main character who tries to solve a problem – like Wallykazam or True. My girl loves cars and balls, but my boy’s not that interested in those. She also likes construction toys, and is just getting into LEGO. So the full picture is more complicated. Y’know?”

 

 

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