I was listening to the Happier podcast and Gretchen Rubin was talking about a little thing she does each year, which is to make a list of things she’d like to do (with the list number corresponding to the year number).
I thought that was pretty cute and wrote up my own 19 for 2019 without thinking too hard about it, so I’d get a list that was kinda… “of the moment.” I’ve done a couple already!
- 24 books / read habit
- Eat more plants
Try the local farmers’ market
- Choose a home renovator
- Get a cool cubby house
- Consider something for kids to climb too
- Journal habit / write habit
- Sketchbook habit / art habit
- 12 new classes / workshops
- Choosing to enjoy life everyday*
- Be more eco friendly
- Make house even nicer e.g. no clutter
- Be less sedentary / daily walk
- Ballet posture
- Meet new people
- Play an instrument
- Clear inbox**
- Less computer time
(And there was space left on the paper so I wrote “celebrate / luxuriate / appreciate” at the end – which are all to do with the “Choosing to enjoy life everyday” one)
* “Choosing to enjoy life everyday” is hard to explain. It’s not “choosing to be happy,” it’s more like a combination of “use the good china” and “spend out” and “live a little” and “because you’re worth it™️” and “YOLO”
** “Clear inbox” refers to a real, live, overflowing inbox next to my desk, full of papers. Not my email. My email is fine!
I don’t know how it happened, but I’m doing 30 minutes of yoga every day (last year, I was only going to one easy class per week!) and I feel like I need it. Like if I reach the afternoon and I haven’t done yoga, I prioritise it over anything else! And now, approximately 18 days into this, my body feels like it needs even more exercise. It feels good. I don’t know who I’ve become. (Michelle, are you contagious?)
OK, where am I.
The past few years (or million years?) I’ve been fretting about what to do next, what life choice I need to make to feel like I’m both enjoying life and doing something meaningful. Not fretting like biting-my-nails fretting or going-to-bed-crying fretting or can’t-breathe-under-the-weight-of-this-existential-angst fretting, more like: most weeks, I think about it – it’s a general background concern that, if I don’t figure something out, I’ll never solve this problem – I’ll always *either* be enjoying life OR feeling like I’m doing something meaningful, but never both at once.
So, stuff it. I’m taking a break from vague worry for a year. 2019 is just about enjoying life. I’m going to purchase some roses from the internet and smell them.
- Read a book every day – in my 2018 resolutions I had “12 books,” thinking I’d work towards one book each month. But I found that goals work much better for me if I look at the small picture in relation to the big picture (the ‘ol “what you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while“). If I only have a few minutes spare before sleep, I can read a couple of pages and I’ve completed the goal. If I have more time, I might end up reading loads of pages. And in this way, I get through books. (12 books in 2017, 48 books in 2018.)
- Write in journal every day – I didn’t prioritise this last year, and became more insular for it. Writing in a journal helps me get into a sharing mode, where I feel more like sharing thoughts with other people. I won’t be able to do this every day, but it’s better for me to try to keep it as a daily goal – as per the quote above.
- Draw in sketchbook every day – this was a 2018 resolution and I kept it really well for the first half of the year. Then I had conflicting priorities, other projects, winter sickness, etc, and I totally dropped the ball. So I’m going to try to chip away at it again.
- Follow your curiosity / Make the time to do it interestingly – these were 2018 resolutions, so it’s not really something I’m changing – they’re things I want to continue to do. “Follow your curiosity” is like giving myself permission to go down rabbit holes. (I heard the vlog brothers say they follow their curiosity and it leads them to all kinds of projects, and I liked that.) “Make the time to do it interestingly” helped me to remember that time & effort needs to be put into things to make them interesting (i.e. creative). So, for example, sometimes I fall back into old work habits and do something like write emails to people that are purely functional and minimal. Sometimes that’s fine. Other times, I want to remember that if I put a bit more time & effort into it, the email could be more interesting. And sometimes that’s what I really want to do.
- Join the world – this is a new one for 2019. I feel like I have withdrawn from the world. I used to love being a part of a work team, going to meetups, conferences and what-not. Heck, I even started my own clubs. I need to find a way to do a new version of that. I miss groups. I miss being a part of something.
- Dream home – this one’s been on my “to do” list for a couple of years, but not a priority. I gotta make it a priority. Nothing about our house is going to change if I don’t find a company to renovate it! Duh.
Easy-peasy! Let’s see how that all goes.
Happy new year, sweets. ❤️