Year: 2018

Make It a Village Again

I go to an art class (which is ace) at the local community centre, so I get the centre’s emails. A while back, their email newsletter said that they wanted to change their offering a bit, to attract new audiences to the community centre and they were looking for ideas. I wrote back that a women’s group might be nice – a place for local women to meet each other. I met with the centre staff to discuss the idea, then whipped up a poster in Apple Pages to advertise an initial “ideas session” – so we could see how many local women are interested in having women’s groups, and what kinds of women’s groups they would like to exist.

womens groups poster
(part of the poster)

We had about 15 women turn up, which might not sound like a lot, but it makes for a decent sized group. I find that around 12 people is about the maximum size for a nice community group meetup, so 15 was pretty good. The manager of the community centre asked if we could go around the table and if everyone could introduce themselves and say a little about why they were there. It was lovely hearing from everyone – I realised I’ve missed all the meetups I used to go to! – just hearing the introductions, and about what they’re looking for.

One woman was talking about how she’d like to engage more with the local community, and said something like: “I’d like us to make it a village again,” which really resonated with me.

I met with a life coach last month – I was curious about life coaches and there are some things I like to experience just because I’m curious about them (personal stylist was another one!) and after talking with her for awhile, she reflected her summary of “me” – some of the key topics were:

  • community
  • women
  • improving things
  • being a good human
  • problem solving
  • bringing people together.

I thought about it afterwards, and yes, that is a pretty good summary! All the things I’ve loved doing – from our street party to MaMoDaBe – it’s basically all been about community, if not those other topics too.

I keep coming back to the idea of “make it a village again” and what that means.

Anyway, I don’t have a point here, just writing in my online diary, you know how it is.

As for the women’s groups – a bunch of ideas came out of the first session – a cycling group, a “Social Sundays” group,  women’s book group, evening art & craft classes, a support group for women who have experienced loss – but the one that piqued my interest (and I never thought someone would suggest!) was an informal art meetup, similar to Ladies Drawing Night or Social Sketch. I LOVE this idea! I wanted to start one, like, a year ago, but wasn’t confident that anyone else would be interested. So I hope that this idea launches. I’m in.

Old West / New World

Did I mention actively trying to start a world war in that last post? Because funnily enough, after writing that post, I came to this passage in Factfulness:


We need Olympic Games, international trade, educational exchange programs, free internet – anything that lets us meet across ethnic groups and country borders. We must take care of and strengthen our safety nets for world peace. Without world peace, none of our sustainability goals will be achievable. It’s a huge diplomatic challenge to prevent the proud and nostalgic nations with a violent track record from attacking others now that they are losing their grip on the world market. We must help the old West to find a new way to integrate itself peacefully into the new world.

Factfulness by Dr Hans Rosling p. 239

Climate Breakdown

In my sleep I thought, maybe the conservatives know exactly what they’re doing? If they understand (and aren’t doing anything to prevent) climate change, then it would make sense, as a particular course of action, to:

  • lock down your country & promote nationalism
  • become self-sufficient in manufacturing, etc
  • budget for more military spending
  • withdraw from multi-country agreements
  • reduce spending on poor people
  • increase spending on wealthy people who might survive


In other news, saw this tweet the other day. Below is the picture from it (embedding from Twitter wasn’t working).




  • I have the stomach flu. Fortunately no vomiting etc! But I’ve been in bed (mostly) for days.
  • I have a Monaco video plotted out. But… when I’m better.
  • I volunteered in two roles this year for my kid’s kindergarten. I should have only done one and done it well, but oh well. I thought no one else would put their hand up. The problem is, on top of your role, there’s so much other stuff that comes up that seriously needs doing. It makes for quite a scatterbrained experience – everything done OK, nothing done comprehensively.
  • More and more mums are working now. I’ve said it before – the things from my childhood (knowing the families in your street, play dates during the week, becoming friends with other mums, walking to visit someone) are nigh impossible now.
  • The volunteer model for kindergartens is outdated and can’t work anymore. For example, many years ago, my “Policy” role would have had a few policies to look at for the kinder. Now there are 38 policies – and there are more being added each year. Next year, the kinder wants to add a suite of policies under OH&S, like policies on bullying and stress. If a parent/guardian put their kids into child care, they would have enough time to volunteer to do 40+ policies… which of course makes no sense – who’s going to put their kids into child care so they can volunteer for a kindergarten? And for me, it defeats the purpose of pausing my career so that my kids don’t have to go into child care – I have to spend the time that someone else is minding them to do volunteer work instead of having a break/time to myself. 🤔
  • My kid’s kindergarten is going to look into a different way of doing things. Whew. Maybe a paid manager who will do all this volunteer work. It’ll affect the fees but it’ll be better for everyone, I think.
  • On Tuesday 20 November I’m helping out at a session at the community centre – they’re interested in starting (maybe) a women’s group / women’s book club / women’s mindfulness group – they’re having an ideas/interest session to see what to run next year. I’ve said I can help out with the women’s group idea, if it’s popular. But I think I want to suggest that there’s a fee. I ran Girls Club for free, and it took time to plan/run; I think I made a mistake there. I’d like for women to see other women get paid for their time/work/expertise.
  • My family has hosted a Christmas street party the past two years and I was stoked this year to have another neighbour offer to host it – takes the weight off us and also feels more like a street party, if it moves around, y’know? Anyway our neighbour looked into what it takes to close the street for the street party, and it was easier than we thought. We needed 75% of neighbours signatures to say they’re in favour, then had to pay $100 to the council. I left a signatures list in my letterbox with a one-week deadline and we got over 75% – and the application was approved last week. I’ve hired a clown for the event! What could possibly go wrong.
  • I’m still really enjoying my art class. At the moment we’re drawing faces and figures, although I missed today’s class because I was in bed.
  • I saw a life coach last week. It didn’t seem interesting/valuable enough to continue as regular sessions, but the once-off was a big confidence booster. As with so many people, I realised how much negative self-talk I have. Redonkulous.
  • I forced my poor sick body to go to a kikki.K “dream life” event last night. I’d bought the ticket ages ago and I’m really impressed by what Kristina Karlsson’s trying to do / doing, so I really wanted to see what it was like. Putting an event on like that is incredible. The microphones were terrible, but everything else was great. It felt like a very special night. To be in a room of 800 (mostly women) people who want to be inspired / who are inspired, who want to connect, who want to develop, who want to love and live and flourish – that’s something pretty cool. I wasn’t inspired by the speakers exactly, maybe because I was sick, but the event itself was neat.
  • I’ve been thinking about trying weights and/or HITT training. I hate being in discomfort though? So not sure how that will go.
  • I joined The Greens.
  • I’m listening to a very interesting podcast episode on voter suppression in the US, and still reading the very very very very interesting book about the world, Factfulness (recommended by Bill Gates. Thanks Bill.)

I think that’s about it.

Deep breath.


Climate Change

We were moseying along. We were trusting the people in charge were well-informed and working hard (as best they can) to make the world a better place – do what needs to be done to prevent climate change from wrecking future lives. But the report came out and James had a nightmare about it and I thought about it on and off each day; what sort of apocalyptic future is coming? We’re a bit freaked out.

We’re getting solar panels.
Reducing meat and milk.
Reducing plastic.
Installing a water tank so we use rainwater for the garden – if the rain continues.
Growing our own veggies.
We get eggs from a small family farm.
I vote Green.
Trying to walk more, drive less.
I’m getting a secondhand bike.

Meanwhile, I’m reading Factfulness, which presents a fact-based and positive view of our current world. I don’t know what to think.


P.s. received this email from a clothing company today. nice to see other people are trying to do something.

Two Quotes

Two quotes I’ve been thinking about:


1. Esther Perel

Women are not less interested in sex than men, they’re less interested in the sex they can have. What makes women lose that interest? Domesticity. Motherhood. The mother thinks about others the whole time. The mother is not busy focusing on herself. In order to be turned on you have to be focused on yourself in the most basic way. The same woman who’s numb in the house gets turned on when she leaves. She doesn’t need hormones. Change the story.


2. The School of Life (Kindness Card)

Kind people know how to talk about their failures. They know that others need to hear external evidence of the problems that make us all feel so lonely: how abnormal our sex lives are; how misguided our careers are proving; how unsatisfactory our family can be; how worried we are pretty much all the time.