Sometimes I think of things I’d like to blog about, but it’s never at a good time. Just when I’m falling asleep. Or just when the baby is falling asleep and I have (potentially) 1-2 precious hours to… do something really important, like answer emails. Or when I’m driving. Or when I’m trying to feed the baby his lunch and he’s persistently scooping the food back out of his mouth with his fingers, dropping it on the floor, and then very cutely exclaiming, “Uh oh!”
One blog-thought that has stuck with me, though, is: “Society is inefficient.” I originally thought about this in the first few months of having a baby, when I realised that all these parents (likely: mothers) were in their homes, around the neighbourhood, and many probably felt isolated and alone, but society (after how many years of procreating?!) hadn’t figured out a way to change that. Sure, more and more mothers are going back to work, but I think there are still lots of mums out there who are feeling isolated.
The one radical thing that’s different about this parenting job is that you have no colleagues, no manager, no underlings. It’s you and zero adult company, day in and day out, unless you can figure out how to change that. Most of the mums in my mothers group have gone back to work. A couple of us haven’t — and we’ve scheduled our weeks to keep social and connected — weekly lunch gathering, playgroup, “baby gym,” swimming lessons, etc.
But I also see older people around the neighbourhood who don’t feel connected, including retirees who want to be useful and busy, but don’t know where to start. Stay-at-home-mums who wish they could find part-time work that would fit their skills. Elders who would give anything to give a baby a cuddle, but don’t have any grandkids of their own. Mums who wish that someone could babysit at their house, just while their baby is napping, so that they could run up the street and send some parcels to friends at the post office. Elders who have had something go wrong with their computer, but have no idea who to ask for help, or how to go about fixing the problem.
It feels all inefficient and higgledy-piggledy. Like if only I was in Society’s HR department, I could read everyone’s résumés, needs and objectives, and match different people up, and different skill-sets. *Fixed!* (What could possibly go wrong?)